We all have something on our To-Do List that brings on, one stage or another, a level of exacerbation. I guess your level of annoyance depends on how many times you have to do said task. For my husband, it’s picking up random trash that blows into our yard. For me, its having to constantly wash dishes (we don’t have a dishwasher). For my oldest son, it’s walking the dog, and for my youngest, its putting away his folded clothes, tying his shoes, removing his dinner plate from the table, picking up socks, making his bed…just a about anything that does not require him picking up his Nintendo Switch and play a game.
This morning, as usually, he was asked to make his bed. This brought on the fierceness of a 7 years male attitude. Why was making his bed such a source of contention? I mean, we (his parents) have provided him with the bed structure of his choosing, bedding of his choosing, and a mattress set…of his choosing. All I needed him to do was make it look neat. Why did that seem like too much to ask? I could have yelled, but what good would that have done? Besides, how would I feel if my husband yelled at me for not washing the dishes or how would he feel if I yelled at him for not picking up the trash that blew onto our property? Sure, yelling would get him to make up his bed…but what about the next day, and the day after that? Not to mention, after a yell session, everyone would have a bad day. Yelling accomplishes NOTHING! Yelling is EXHAUSTING! But still, the bed needed to be made.
So, what did I do? After calming down the 7 year old attitude, I walked him back to his room to assist him with making his bed. Turns out, that task just seemed a little overwhelming to him at the time. So, we talked about each step before performing it. After it was all done, there was a smile on his BEAUTIFUL face.
This translates to our homeschooling as well. Sometimes one child or another doesn’t want to complete their reading assignment. The mention of math may bring us all to tears. Language Arts or essays may have us ruining for the hills. However, it still needs to get done. It benefits us all to find out the root of the problem. Many times, we are just overwhelmed with the volume of the task. Talking it out, breaking the assignments down into smaller chunks, asking for or accepting assistance are always good starting points.
Did your learners have a difficult time with certain tasks? How did you help avoid meltdowns or yelling sessions?